Questions & Answers

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What Is Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga?

Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga is a profound and playful way for learning to live in bliss. What distinguishes Tantra Heart from other yogic paths is the focus on realizing your true Self, attention to emotional flow, and the skillfully designed sets of yogic techniques for safely activating your kundalini (powerful and creative) energy.

Frustration, separation, boredom and fear melt away, for they are simply clouds over the magnificence that is present inside you. The union of sex, love and pure awareness within your body, with a beloved, in each moment, with everyone, with all of existence is indescribable joy.

Is sexual activity a part of your programs and retreats?

Learning to feel and move sexual energy is an important part of Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga. You will learn techniques to awaken and enjoy the primal, creative, sexual energy that is available to everyone, but explicit sexual activity is not included in the programs and retreats. There are sexual techniques taught that you can explore in the privacy of your own home.

What is the level of sexual contact within the varied classes that you teach?

Good question. Many people ask about this. The heart of our programs is learning to feel and move energy (prana in Sanskrit). Sex is the great vital force that rises to generate life energy of the soul (Kundalini in Sanskrit). Beginning classes and programs involve learning to feel and move sexual energy. Nudity and sexual touch are not involved. Learning to activate the pelvis is. At very special times in intermediate and advanced classes, sexual arousal through touch or union are included. This is always voluntary, performed in a beautiful way, and created in a sacred ritual manner. Tantra is not sex for sensationalism, it is sex joined with heart and consciousness for transforming personal reality to the divine. You are welcome to call or email anytime for more details.

What if I don't want to participate in some of the exercises?

No one is ever forced to do anything. Your safety is of primary importance. In Tantra you are given techniques to move beyond that which holds you back from true fulfillment. Sometimes you are asked to face your blocks or discomforts in a loving way. People are always pleasantly surprised when their old difficulties simply dissolve.  When something is just “too difficult” your decision to not participate is supported with respect and love.

Is full or partial nudity included in group activity? I noticed that sexual activity is restricted, but nudity was not mentioned.  Are there controls in place (outer doors locked, shades drawn on windows, prohibition of cameras or video, etc.)?

The body (certainly the nude body) is fully honored in our programs. Nudity in the group sessions varies from program to program. For shorter programs nudity is usually not included. In longer programs and retreats, nudity is usually an option in parts of the programs where it is appropriate. No one is ever required to be nude except for some of the specialized rituals of the advanced programs. We always establish safety & honoring within the group regarding nudity, so there is a feeling of sacredness. Typically doors are not locked (people do not come in unannounced), shades are drawn if non-participants may be going by outside, and cameras are never included during sessions.

At our retreat center, the hot tub is clothing optional.

The nude body is numinou, which means infused with mystery & awe, no matter the shape or imperfections. This new way of being is an exciting discovery for participants. Very freeing & loving of oneself and others.

Can Tantra improve my sex life?

Tantra can definitely bring increased satisfaction and excitement to your sex life, and much more --it has a wonderful influence on all areas of your life. To learn to experience what we call Energy Sex enhances friction sex in ways most people have never imagined.

We have been married for ten years this fall.  How can we take our lives to a new level?

Ten years together is a strong base from which to grow. Between 7 & 10 years is a period when things often feel "stuck" in the sex/love flow of relationship. With the experience of Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga you can make a shift to a new level of being that is beyond description. The union of sex, heart and consciousness awakens everything. Enjoy the exploration and the experimentation.

Is Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga just for couples?

No. Singles and couples are equally welcomed at all of our classes, events and retreats. No one is left out or set up to feel like a "third wheel." Also, one of the best things about the techniques you learn is that they are highly effective practiced alone or with a partner. You do not need a partner to participate, in fact there are many advantages to participating as a single. You can give full attention to awakening your own energy body.

I am interested in coming to one of your sessions but my spouse will not be coming with me.  I feel uncomfortable attending alone.  Do you have people who attend alone the first times just to learn?

You are asking a question we hear often. For many people coming to Tantra the first time brings up discomfort. Couples coming together the first time often feel uncomfortable too. In our teaching we share that Tantra is not about feeling comfortable, it is about increasing consciousness, energy & love beyond limitations. Often one partner comes to the sessions without the other partner when either schedule or personal preference makes coming together impossible. Some couples take turns coming because of childcare concerns. Usually, one person in a partnership is more excited (more a pioneer) than the other. The person coming to the sessions can be a scout for the relationship bringing back new learnings, attitudes and techniques to the relationship for change & enrichment. Following your high interests is important for yourself and the relationship.

I am interested in your programs by my partner is not.  How do I convince my partner that the connection of sex and spirit is important and will enhance our relationship?

Here's a suggestion. Change your approach of "convince my partner" to "invite my partner" to join you in the connection of sex & spirit. Invitation is honoring and reduces resistance.

Within your relationship be willing to be the leader of the sex & spirit exploration. If your partner chooses not to come to programs at first, affirm your "faithfulness to each other," and then share with your partner that you are going to these programs alone as a "scout" for the relationship. You want to bring home valuable contributions to the growth and happiness of the relationship.

Does Tantra involve the emotions?

As you practice the techniques, you find yourself feeling emotions more clearly. Sometimes this is exhilarating, sometimes challenging. Simply being more aware of your emotions frees you to be authentic and powerful. You learn to accept and honor all the emotions, easy ones & difficult ones, without judgment. Through this acceptance you are able to experience a deeper connection with the people in your life and more fulfilling relationships. You find yourself with a positive outlook on life and a greater awareness of your life purpose. You find it easier to live in the present moment, instead of fretting about the past or worrying about the future. 

Intense Kundalini energy awakened for me and then went right back to sleep. Where does Kundalini comes from: the perineum or the third chakra which is the CENTER of gravity? I am scared by this energy but want to experience it again.

In our experience Kundalini comes from the root at the base of the body. When awakening it rises and both intensifies and is intensified by the chakras (major energy centers) in the spine. Each Kundalini experience is unique among those who experience it, and is unique for the same person as each moment unfolds. Fear is a common response to Kundalini awakening, especially when a person's body-mind is not prepared for it. The Cobra Breath gifted to humankind by Babaji Nagraraj, the Himalayan avatar, is the most powerful, safe and sustaining way we know of to awaken and fully integrate Kundalini. We teach the Cobra Breath in the "Learning to Live in Bliss" Level 1 retreat (see our calendar of retreats for the next one). We can also teach the Cobra Breath within the Tantra Heart Practicum course (which entails intense guided learning at home including coaching sessions by phone with us if you wish). Please let us know if you want to receive more information about these opportunities. Personal Coaching (90 minutes by phone or in person for $60) is an excellent way to explore your high interests and challenges in depth.

What kinds of people are involved in Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga?

Our community consists of people from all walks of life, from a wide range of backgrounds and professions.  Beauticians, lawyers, licensed massage therapists, school teachers, yoga instructors, herbalists, contractors, doctors, artisans, students, and musicians (just to name a few!) have all found meaning in the practices of Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga.

What is the age range of participants?

Most of the people in the Tantra community are between thirty and sixty years old.  Some are in their twenties and some are sixty or older. Eighteen is the minimum age for classes and retreats.

How many people attend the classes and retreats?

The number of participants at the Tantra Experience night classes varies from class to class. Sometimes there are eight people, sometimes there are more than twenty. Our retreats are generally limited to 24 people (12 men and 12 women) because of limited sleeping rooms at the retreat center.

What can we do to prepare for one of your classes?

Here are a few of our suggestions:

You are welcome to call or email anytime.

What is the Cosmic Cobra Breath?

The key technique in the Tantra Heart system is the Cobra Breath, a precious gift to humankind from Babaji, a Himalayan yogi of great power and wisdom. This ancient breath technique prepares the mind and body for the safe, controlled movement of unlimited energy and wisdom, called kundalini.

The Cobra Breath pulls Shakti (or magnetic) energy into the spine, changing the electromagnetic properties of the cerebrospinal fluid, allowing kundalini to move up the spine. As the brain bathes in this magnetized fluid, the nervous system is transformed, and you awaken to a new consciousness. There are seven levels of Cobra Breath, each opening specific energy channels and dimensions of consciousness.

I want to learn the Cobra Breath. How do I do this through the Practicum?

We are excited to share the Tantra Heart Practicum & Cobra Breath with you. Participating in a "Learning to Live in Bliss" Level 1 retreat is the most powerful way to learn the Cobra Breath because of the wonderful group energy generated by everyone involved over a whole weekend. However, the Practicum (home practice course) has unique strengths and opportunities. Your potential for awakening clearly exciting energy fields within yourself are expanded through the Practicum. You can register for the Practicum with us. The first six lessons of the Practicum will be sent to you for deep exploration and practice. The cost for the Practicum is $65. The mentoring session to learn the Cobra Breath (connected to Lesson 4 of the Practicum) is done over the phone or in person and will take 60-90 minutes. The cost of the mentoring session is $60. If you wish you can space out these payments...$65 for the Practicum now, $60 for the Cobra Breath session in about 3 months. We take credit cards or check. You are welcome to email or call anytime for more details or to register.

What exactly is Tantric massage?  How does it differ with relaxation/sports massage/therapeutic? How can I learn it?

Tantric massage in our system emphasizes the feeling and moving of energy which is also called Prana, life force or inner vitality. The sensations of the outer body like touch are included with wonderful attention and pleasure.

However, the inner streaming of energy expands the sensations to the spiritual dimensions as well as the physical. In Tantric massage the sexual energy is also honored and expanded. Sometimes this includes genital massage but personal choice and the difficulty of laws against touching the genitals in exchange for money restricts actual touching of the genitals except by a person other than the massage coach.

Opening the sexual energy with the hands of the giver just a few inches above the genitals is amazingly powerful for those who can feel & move energy. The sexual energy is connected to the whole body, especially to the heart and third eye in the brain, for a wonderful new experience of wholeness and spiritual ecstasy for the receiver. This is quite different than the purposes of sports & therapeutic massages.

To learn to connect the sexual and spiritual  with touch is amazing. Feelings of wholeness, completeness and unity with the divine are experiences often reported from Tantra massage. We teach Tantra massage by guiding one partner touching another partner through the Tantra massage. Or by guiding one person touching herself or himself in Tantra massage. Legally we cannot erotically touch or be touched when money is involved.

To fully access Tantra massage a person needs to learn to feel & move energy in the body and to be the witness (letting go of judgment, criticism). The three guidelines to learn are focus, breathe and relax...which sound easy but are challenges for most people in high sexual spiritual energy. Yet they are wonderful to learn. All of our programs and classes support your learning of these life changing new ways of being. Personal Coaching is customized to your interests, directly focused to awakening your full potential including overcoming obstacles you may have for living in ecstasy each day.

Call or email if you are interested in exploring Personal Coaching to learn Tantra massage or to register for any of our programs. Your questions and interests are always welcomed.

What is the connection between Yoga Nidra and Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga?

Yoga Nidra is a powerful and very effective practice. It emanated from the Bihar School of Yoga in India, which is also the source of the Tantra Kriya yoga system of Tantra Heart. Tantra is the much bigger whole methodology for learning to live in bliss (enlightenment) and Yoga Nidra is one of its methods for unifying the conscious & subconscious/unconscious through the Theta Threshold vibrational levels of consciousness. Both Yoga Nidra and Tantra are focused on realizing union where there is separation or estrangement. We sell a wonderful book from the Bihar School that describes Yoga Nidra in detail with many of its uses and benefits clearly outlined.

How can I learn more about Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga if I don't live in the Cincinnati area?

How about coming to Cincinnati as a vacation sometime? Check the Retreats page for the next "Learning to Live in Bliss" retreat. What a great gift to yourself! We have payment plans to fit each person's cash flow situation. It is surprising how much time and money become available for people to make a commitment to themselves for that which is most important.

We also offer Personal Coaching sessions by phone. These are powerful ways to support you on your path to living in bliss. Sessions focus on your high interests, your particular personal challenges or the "something new" you are creating in your life. Personal sessions are not counseling or therapy. They are coaching sessions, specifically designed to help you make the shifts you want to make in your life. Sessions are $60 for one to one-and-a-half hours. Check out the Personal Coaching page to learn more about the possibilities.

We would be glad to come to your area to teach a weekend retreat such as  "Learning to Live in Bliss." Would you be interested in sponsoring a Tantra retreat ? Do you think you can attract 16-20+ registrants?

As teachers we work with sponsors in cities around the United States who organize the retreat by finding a hall or retreat center, doing the advertising, collecting the registrations, arranging meals, etc.  After expenses, the net profit is shared 50%-50% between the sponsor and us as teachers. For a successful retreat there is a significant new profit . The minimum return we need to make for each weekend retreat that we facilitate is $1,000 plus reimbursement for our expenses.

If you decided to be a sponsor, a Sponsor's Manual would be sent to you outlining the major points to consider for your planning. Scheduling a weekend retreat about 6 months in advance leaves sufficient time to be successful in your advertising and registrations.

Can you come to my area to do a workshop?

We would be glad to come to your area to teach a weekend retreat such as  "Learning to Live in Bliss." Would you be interested in sponsoring a Tantra retreat ? Do you think you can attract 16-20+ registrants?

As teachers we work with sponsors in cities around the United States who organize the retreat by finding a hall or retreat center, doing the advertising, collecting the registrations, arranging meals, etc.  After expenses, the net profit is shared 50%-50% between the sponsor and us as teachers. For a successful retreat there is a significant new profit . The minimum return we need to make for each weekend retreat that we facilitate is $1,000 plus reimbursement for our expenses.

If you decided to be a sponsor, a Sponsor's Manual would be sent to you outlining the major points to consider for your planning. Scheduling a weekend retreat about 6 months in advance leaves sufficient time to be successful in your advertising and registrations.

I would like to incorporate Tantra into my practice and would also like to teach it. What would be the best course of action for me to achieve these goals?

Next steps for learning Tantra and becoming a teacher.

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