What Is Tantra Heart?

New state of being!
Tantra Heart is a profound and playful way for learning to live in bliss. What distinguishes Tantra Heart from other yogic paths is using kundalini energy—sexual and creative power from the root chakra—to clear emotional blockages and realize your true Self.

Clear of past hurt, the heart opens.  Frustration, boredom and fear melt away, for they are simply clouds over the magnificent love always inside you.  Tantra Heart is the union of sex, love and awareness—within your body, with a partner, with everyone—so that each moment becomes indescribable joy.

A dynamic practice!
Tantra Heart is supported by Kriya Yoga, the ancient and skillfully designed sets of techniques for safely activating your kundalini (most powerful and creative) energy.

I have heard about Cobra Breath, what is it & what can I expect?

The key technique in the Tantra Heart system is the Cobra Breath, a precious gift to humankind from Babaji, a Himalayan yogi of great power and wisdom. This ancient breath technique prepares the mind and body for the safe, controlled movement of unlimited energy and wisdom, called kundalini.

The Cobra Breath pulls Shakti (or magnetic) energy into the spine, changing the electromagnetic properties of the cerebrospinal fluid, allowing kundalini to move up the spine. As the brain bathes in this magnetized fluid, the nervous system is transformed, and you awaken to a new consciousness. There are seven levels of Cobra Breath, each opening specific energy channels and dimensions of consciousness.

I am excited to learn Cobra Breath. How do I do this?

You embark on the Cobra Breath learning & practice through (1) the “Tantra Heart Personal Empowerment Program” by phone or skype, or (2) the Tantra Heart 1 workshop “Learning to Live in Joy, Excitement & Love” offered in our home studio and also in other cities. Email richard@tantraheart.com to discuss what path is best for you.

I heard that enlightenment can open a person to be in other worlds, so that freely leaving the planet is part of the experience. Do you wish to stay on earth?

Practicing Cobra Breaths numbers 4-7 does have a “leaving the earthly plane” experience. Having done this practice daily for many years, opens realities of beyond earth for us. However, our commitment to contributing to the evolution of the planet inspires us to come back…to stay on earth.

Our life includes…

• Daily Tantra Heart practice for 13 years…never miss
• Lots & lots of energy & joy
• A wonderful exciting relationship with each other as intimate partners, plus wonderful relationships as students/friends with many others
• Intense exercise each day on treadmill, bike, weight lifting  or swimming exercise
• We basically never get sick, year after year. If something does disturb the body, we listen to what the distress is saying, follow the guidance of the message that the symptom gives, and, when heard and followed, the pain goes away quickly.

Our lives are filled with joy excitement & love…including, giving support to many others learning Tantra Heart. Being on earth is such an honor. What a joy to be here.

What kinds of people are involved in Tantra Heart?

Our community consists of people from all walks of life, from a wide range of backgrounds and professions. Beauticians, lawyers, licensed massage therapists, school teachers, yoga instructors, herbalists, contractors, doctors, artisans, students, and musicians (just to name a few!) have all found meaning in the practices of Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga.

What is the age range of participants?

Most people who learn Tantra Heart are between thirty and sixty years of age. Some are in their twenties and some are seventy and older. Eighteen is the minimum age for classes and retreats.

I feel strongly aligned with what you teach, can I go far with this, even be a teacher?

It is wonderful to feel your excitement. Alignment with you is strong ~ depth of awakening, trust in power of Cobra Breaths, dedicated to the sexual spiritual kriya practices, and a calling to share/teach these things with many others. Here is information about Tantra Heart Teacher Empowerment. You are welcome to be engaged in your Tantra Heart Cobra Breath learning process simultaneously with your Tantra Heart Teacher Empowerment learning. Your learning is accelerated by guiding and teaching Tantra Heart to others.

With a strong Catholic/Christian background, I wonder about the relevancy of Tantra Heart sex.

In our experience, the key to awakening the sexual-spiritual (which is actually the union of heart-sex-consciousness) is ~ Be in union with the divine in every cell of the body…of the world. This learning can actually support your strong Catholic /Christian roots by bringing feelings of the divine into your body in a natural way.
The exploration/discovery/awakening of spiritual self that gently opens from the learning of Tantra Heart can be as slow and “unique to you” as you wish. You channel the way you incorporate Tantra Heart into your life & belief system in your own unique way. You are welcome to talk by phone or skype with us anytime. Your inner guide will whisper to you…when.

Finances are shaky now, so we are unsure when to begin our learning of Tantra with you. We feel stuck. How can we handle this?

Begin your transformational journey when you can. For most people, money is not the real resistance…there is something else blocking the first step to sexual-spiritual awakening. Try this as an experiment ~ make a guess about what your hidden resistance may be to learning Tantra Heart? Now, set up a free introductory phone or skype conversation with us to share your observations from making this guess about the resistance. We can be creative with you in the conversation. Email richard@tantraheart.com to contact us.

Is Tantra Heart just for couples?

No. Singles and couples are equally welcomed in all of our programs. No one is left out. No one is a “third wheel.” The Tantra Heart techniques you learn are highly effective practiced alone or with a partner. You do not need a partner to participate, in fact there are many advantages to participating as a single. You can give full attention to awakening your personal energy body.

We have been married for ten years this fall. How can we take our lives to a new level?

Ten years together is a strong base from which to grow. Between 7 & 10 years is a period when things often feel “stuck” in the sex/love flow of relationship. With the experience of Tantra Heart Kriya Yoga you can make a shift to a new level of being that is beyond description. The union of sex, heart and consciousness awakens everything. Enjoy the exploration and the experimentation.

My partner and I are very different. How can we make this work for us in our sex lives?

In each relationship…each person has a style or unique approach about sex. In coaching couples, we help both partners honor each other’s style. Then we invite each person to (1) share her/his own style with courage and openness and (2) to be interested and supportive to the other’s unique sexual style.

We encourage students to take turns leading sexual experiences using their own styles. She leads one time in sexual sharing. He leads the next.

Without this taking turns of leading-following, there are “tug of wars” about whose style/approach dominates. Often the 2 partners try to control one another regarding sex. This usually leads to frustration.
Each person is unique regarding sex. Suggestion … honor the uniqueness of each partner, practice both. With love.

As a new Tantra Heart student, how do I get started finding a relationship?

Good to hear from you. Seeking a partner who is interested in successful relationship is a wonderful intention. Not knowing how to begin your learning of Tantra Heart is understandable…most people do not feel comfortable when first heading into this.

What is your level of interest in learning new ways to make this relationship success likely…even probable? The key is finding & practicing brand new approachs for success.

Action step suggestion…give yourself an in-depth 90 minute explore/discover/create session with a Tantra Heart coach by phone. Contact us for a free introductory conversation focused to what is most important for you. richard@tantraheart.com 513-931-3030

Do you have people in relationship who attend alone the first time? I am interested in coming to one of your sessions but my spouse will not be coming with me. I feel uncomfortable attending alone.

You are asking a question we hear often. For many people coming to Tantra the first time brings up discomfort. Couples coming together the first time often feel uncomfortable too. In our teaching we share that Tantra is not about feeling comfortable, it is about increasing consciousness, energy & love beyond limitations.

Often one partner comes to the sessions without the other partner when either schedule or personal preference makes coming together impossible. Some couples take turns coming because of childcare responsibilities. Usually, one person in a partnership is more excited (more a pioneer in exploring Tantra Heart) than the other. The person coming to the sessions can be a scout for the relationship bringing back new learning, attitudes and techniques to the relationship for change & enrichment. Following your high interests is important for yourself and the relationship.

I am interested in your programs but my partner is not. How do I convince my partner that the connection of sex and spirit is important and will enhance our relationship?

Here’s a suggestion. Change your approach of “convince my partner” to “invite my partner” to join you in the connection of sex & spirit. Invitation is honoring and reduces resistance.
Within your relationship be willing to be the leader of the sex & spirit exploration. If your partner chooses not to come to programs at first, affirm your “faithfulness to each other,” and then share with your partner that you are going to these programs alone as a “scout” for the relationship. You want to bring home valuable contributions to the growth and happiness of the relationship.

I am in love with a man 20 years older. Do you think a relationship with a big age difference can be successful?

In our experience, the difference in your ages is probably more of an emotional difference than a physical one. A person who has been through more years of life has experienced a wide range of feelings, ups and downs. However, love, passionate interest in one another, and development of  relationship skills are more important than any differences.

Explore these questions ~ What is the purpose of your relationship? Your vision? What do the two of you want to contribute to make the world a  better place?

Also, if you choose to remain partners for many years, to what level are you dedicated to stay fully vital in your lives ~ consistent sexual-spiritual practice, regular exercise, motivated by life purpose, and focused to positive outlooks to whatever you face? How determined are you both to personal growth, individually & together. You can create your life and relationship to be absolutely wonderful if you wish to. Having the support of a coach can be very helpful.

I am looking forward to meeting new people to date. What do you recommend?

From our experience, the effective approach to meet people to date are ~

1) be involved in activities you care about and be willing to playfully flirt in a sacred, honoring way

2) be involved in online dating sites where you clearly express your deeper self including your interest in partners who have vision & an exploratory sexual spiritual nature

3) be fully involved in Tantra (especially Tantra Heart) because the energy/love vibration of people in Tantra Heart can align with who you truly are in special ways.

Is sexual activity a part of Tantra Heart programs?

Learning to feel and move sexual energy is an important part of living successfully. You will learn techniques to awaken and enjoy the primal, creative, sexual energy that is available to everyone, but explicit sexual activity is not included in the beginner level group programs. You learn wonderful sexual techniques to explore in the privacy of your own home. Coaching sessions can include sexual activity based on the important interests and needs of the student. Governmental law about sexual activity is adhered to.

What is the level of sexual contact within the varied classes that you teach?

Good question. Many people ask about this. The heart of our programs is learning to feel and move energy (prana in Sanskrit). Sex is the great vital force that rises to generate life energy of the soul (Kundalini in Sanskrit).

Beginning classes and programs involve learning to feel and move sexual energy. Nudity and sexual touch are not involved. Learning to activate the pelvis is.

At very special times in intermediate and advanced classes, sexual arousal through touch or union are included. This is always voluntary, safe, performed in a beautiful way, and created in a sacred ritual manner. Tantra is not sex for sensationalism, it is sex joined with heart and consciousness for transforming personal reality to the divine. You are welcome to call or email anytime for more details.

Can Tantra improve my sex life?

Tantra can definitely bring increased satisfaction and excitement to your sex life, and much more –it has a wonderful influence on all areas of your life. To learn to experience what we call Energy Sex enhances friction sex in ways most people have never imagined.

Is there a way that orgasm can be a part of my coaching sessions?

The breadth/depth of orgasming is truly amazing in light of sexual spiritual awakening. There is so much diversity of orgasming for all of us. They reveal so much. Sometimes faster, sometimes slower (or not at all), stronger or weaker, on&on or slip by quickly. You are welcome to include arousal & orgasming in your coaching session…you can learn new approaches to orgasm including the experience itself within the session if you wish. In Tantra orgasming is at times referred to as the “song of songs”…the ”ode to joy”…embodiment of the divine.

I haven’t made love to my husband (whom I love) in 13 months and would like to be intimate again. How can your program help me?

Our coaching program helps you discover the channels of sexual spiritual energy (& pleasure) within your body. The desire & fulfillment are there. I assure you.
Are you open to exploring & discovering? Are you interested in learning a lot about yourself, your body & sexuality in a curious, loving & diving deeply way?
Let’s find a date/time to talk by phone in a Free Introductory Meeting to look at important possibilities that can fulfill (even exceed) your interests. You can awaken your sexual life, & many other aspects of life that flow from a lively sexuality. The full expression of your heart, sex & spirit is important.

My partner thinks that I put too much emphasis on sex thus taking away the spontaneity. She says I make it into a goal of the relationship.  I don’t know what to do.

In each relationship…each person has a style or unique approach about sex. In coaching couples, we help both partners honor each other’s style. Then we invite each person to (1) share her/his own style with courage and openness and (2) to be interested and supportive to the other’s unique sexual style.

We encourage students to take turns leading sexual experiences using their own styles. She leads one time in sexual sharing. He leads the next.

Without this taking turns of leading-following, there are “tug of wars” about whose style/approach dominates. Often the 2 partners try to control one another regarding sex. This usually leads to frustration.
Each person is unique regarding sex. Suggestion … honor the uniqueness of each partner, practice both. With love.

Sometimes my partner has erection problems. The missionary position does work for us. What are your suggestions?

Intercourse is wonderful, yet there is so much more to great sex than intercourse. Erections, as you know, come & go, in varying circumstances and emotional states. Absolute sexual ecstasy can be continual, not dependent on erections or female engorgement either.

There is an ancient Tantra expression ~ enter soft, leave hard. This does take learning and practice.

Hurray for your enjoyment of missionary style. Each position is wonderful if not judged to be inferior. Continue choosing what is sexually positive for you and your partner. Be explorers.

Suggestion ~ in naked honesty talk with him about your concerns & interests.

I am glad to be a coach with you (& your partner if you wish to invite him) in order to help you create your absolute fulfillment. Do you know about Skype? Of course, we can also use phone or chat for coaching sessions.

I want to explore non-traditional/open loving relationships, and not sure how to start. Would love to hear your thoughts

Beginning the journey suggestions ~ explore yourself beyond your personal traditions & patterns; whatever level you now openly love everyone…double that level; create a big-picture (universal) purpose for the type of relationship you envision; read “Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality” by Ryan and Jethá; and choose a Tantra Heart personal coach as a guide for yourself journeying into new pioneering open styles of relationship.  With love for you!! You can create what is wonderfully important for you and others!

Through learning Tantra Heart, the attractions from men toward me is on a high level, yet I am not sure what to do with the energy. They express an abundance of love for me. A bit overwhelming at times. What do you suggest?

Yes, energy & love are expanding in and around you.Your charisma is awakening. People are attracted to your inner radiance…sometimes in confusing ways.

In our experience, doing a daily Tantra Heart practice is truly important. Practicing Cobra Breath & the Tantra Heart Energy Sequence increases your inner clarity and balances heart-sex-consciousness within yourself. Capacity of trust grows as well as skill for channeling the attention from others. This supports your skill to bring the attention to a deep meaningful purpose.

I read somewhere that sex was supposed to be an energizing activity. I recently had a 3-day stretch with a lot of sex, and it left us both exhausted, more mentally, spiritually and emotionally, than physically. What was this about? Where did the energy go?

Possibilities to explore regarding your experience of exhaustion ~

• Ask your body…your energy…the exhaustion…to “speak” to you revealing the purpose of the exhaustion. Listen to what the body “whispers” to you.
• After great intensity of sex, perhaps your body spirit is encouraging you to weave in more meditation with your sex. The body may say in the signal of exhaustion…ahhh, meditate…be still…be deeply present & awake in stillness as part of your sexual life.
• Experiment using the Tantra Heart Energy Sequence (contact us to receive this) in your wonderful deep dives into sex. Witness where the energy goes. Step 8 of the sequence is “Bless & Connect.” You guide in a conscious gifting way where energy flows.

There is no generalized or expected results flowing from sexual explorations. For example, whether energizing or exhausting, each experience is valuable in its unique way.

Let us know if this is helpful & what you discover in your explorations.

What if I don’t want to participate in some of the exercises?

No one is ever forced to do anything. Your safety is of primary importance. In Tantra Heart you are given techniques to move what holds you back from your true fulfillment. Sometimes, in a loving way, you are invited to face your blocks or discomforts. People are always pleasantly surprised when old difficulties simply dissolve. When something is just “too difficult,” your decision to not participate is supported with respect and love.

Is full or partial nudity included in group activities? I noticed that sexual activity is restricted, but nudity was not mentioned. Are there controls in place (outer doors locked, shades drawn on windows, prohibition of cameras or video, etc.)?

The body (certainly the nude body) is fully honored in our programs. Nudity in the group sessions varies from program to program. For beginner programs nudity is usually not included. In more advanced programs, nudity is usually an option for parts of the experiences where appropriate. No one is ever required to be nude except for some of the specialized rituals of the Tantra Heart 3 advanced course.

We always establish safety & honoring within the group regarding nudity, so there is a feeling of sacredness. Typically doors are  locked (people do not come in unannounced), shades are drawn if non-participants may be going by outside, and cameras are never included during sessions.

The nude body is numinous, which means infused with mystery & awe, no matter the shape or imperfections. This new way of being with their body is an exciting discovery for each participant. This approach is freeing & loving of oneself and others.

How many people attend the classes and retreats?

The number of participants in the workshops vary. Sometimes there are six people, sometimes there are twelve or more.

Does coming to the course encompass things that I have already paid for in coaching with the Personal Empowerment Home Study Course?

The courses… “Learn to Live in Joy Excitement Love” Tantra Heart 1 and “Discover the Lover Within” Tantra Heart 2  are wonderful all-embracing transformational experiences. The wonderful group energy & prolonged practice together over the weekend of the course make them uniquely powerful. When choosing to participate in a course, some students continue their coaching sessions focused to their personal growth & life challenges being faced.  As part of your coaching,  when your schedule/budget permits, participate in the Tantra Heart courses to explore/discover the full range of the approaches & techniques… intensely. Having a coach and participating in courses, when or if possible, are a powerful combination.

What is the price and time it will take me to learn all 4 Cobra Breaths?

For most students the journey is a couple of years. Much faster than in the past in India where it would take 30 or 40 years. People are ready now to awaken to passionate enlightenment more quickly.

The cost varies upon the types of workshops and pace of coaching sessions that you choose. We are glad to customize the path to fit your budget, interest & schedule. Your awakening to full joy, excitement & love (not matter what you face) is the purpose for learning Tantra Heart & the Cobra Breaths . What is really great for you? I suggest that we talk by phone or Skype. Interested? If yes, please send richard@tantraheart.com a date & time that is good for you. The call will take 15-20 minutes. Looking forward to hearing from you soon.

What can I do to prepare for one of your courses or coaching sessions?

Here are suggestions:
o    Simply be yourself. Trust yourself with love.
o    Look and read through our website www.tantraheart.com
o    Be open to new experiences, feelings and surprisingly new ways of perceiving the world.
o    If you like to read, we can recommend a book connected to your interest.
o    Practice enjoying and being present with whatever you do at any moment: driving, talking, eating, walking, etc.
o    You are welcome to call or email us anytime.

I prefer coming to a workshop. What are the advantages of choosing to learn with a Tantra Heart coach?

We too love the group energy of students diving into each course. Yet, advantages for students to have a Tantra Heart coach are  significant. There is

• continuous learning as the coaching sessions unfold over many months
• total focus in coaching sessions to the desires & needs of the individual student
• more personal time to learn valuable Tantra Heart practices in-depth.

Suggestion ~ dive deeply with the monthly coaching sessions to discover your ecstatic new life.

I am unsure of  when to schedule a coaching session with you? How do I know?

When things feel off for you OR when interest in something important rises strongly…you are welcome to contact us as a coach to support your discovery journey. We can help you “leap” to your most important breakthroughs.

I can’t get rid of a pain in my neck and upper back. Feels like a block of some sort.  What can I try?

My heart connects with yours in facing this challenge.

Experiments to try ~
1)  Relate to the pain (not as an enemy) but as a messenger or an alarm clock. What is the pain bringing your attention to? What new action to take?
2)  Suggestion ~ let go of trying to figure it out, rather talk to the pain as a friendly messenger. Ask it to speak to you (or show you) through your intuition what you are being called to do. Follow what it tells you.
3)  In our experience, neck & upper back are areas of the body pertaining to speaking your truth, being creative, and allowing your heart song to be expressed. In light of this, what wants to come up into consciousness & expression for you?
4)  Gently & softly undulate your spine like a soft reed gently flexing from the base of the spine to the skull. Picture the flow of a gentle river of energy flowing up/down your spine while undulating. Free the energy by gently undulating…moving into surrender.
5)  If possible, with full consciousness, do some singing. For you, what songs come up to be sung? Or, do some yelling, wild full open throat screaming. What screams want to be let loose?

Experiment! Your body & intuition can be such a support in transforming the pain into learning & new ways of being whole…thriving.

Does Tantra Heart involve the emotions?

As you practice the techniques, you find yourself feeling emotions more clearly. Sometimes this is exhilarating, sometimes challenging. Simply being more aware of your emotions frees you to be authentic and powerful. You learn to accept and honor all the emotions, easy ones & difficult ones, without judgment. Through this acceptance you are able to experience a deeper connection with the people in your life and more fulfilling relationships. You find yourself with a positive outlook on life and a greater awareness of your life purpose. You find it easier to live in the present moment, instead of fretting about the past or worrying about the future.

When an intense Kundalini energy awakened for me, I was startled.  I am scared by this energy but want to experience it again.

In our experience Kundalini rises from the root at the base of the body. When awakened  Kundalini intensifies and is intensified by the chakras (major energy centers) in the spine. Each Kundalini experience is unique among those who experience it, and is unique for the same person in each moment that it unfolds. Fear is a common response to Kundalini awakening, especially when a person’s body-mind is not prepared for it.

The Cobra Breath gifted to humankind by Babaji Nagaraj, the wonderful enlightened teacher of India, is the most powerful, safe and sustaining way to awaken and integrate Kundalini. We teach Cobra Breath in the Tantra Heart 1 workshop, “Learning to Live in Bliss”  (see our calendar of workshops for the next one).

We also teach Cobra Breath within the Tantra Heart Personal Empowerment Home Study Course (which includes coaching sessions by phone or skype with us). Email us richard@tantraheart.com to receive more information about these opportunities. Personal Coaching is an excellent way to explore your high interests and challenges in depth.

I’m struggling. Things fall apart and strangely come together too. How can your coaching help?

It is an honor to be a coach for you…for your deep exploring, discovering, creative process focused to your passionate enlightenment, absolute freedom/flow, embodiment of the divine, finding the ease with struggle. Coaching is focused to what is most important, even crucial, for you. In the sessions you will be guided to explore yourself in all aspects, especially deep & breakthrough. There are specific experiments that flow from each session to apply in your daily life so your magnificence shines more & more naturally.

The cost for 90 minute coaching sessions by phone or skype is $80. If you wish to add the materials of Personal Empowerment Home Study Course, then the cost is $90 for the coaching session + the materials. Payment is by credit card, paypal or check. In light of this opportunity, what excites you?

I worry and think constantly. How to get out of the head and more into the body?

Experiment with belly breathing, chant AUM, and the Tantra Heart Energy Sequence including Cobra Breath. Simple, fast, safe. Amazing. Let us know when you want to learn these 3 methods.

What exactly is Tantric massage? How does it differ from relaxation, sports, therapeutic massage? How can I learn it?

Tantric massage in our system emphasizes the feeling and moving of energy which is also called Prana, life force or inner vitality. The sensations of the outer body like touch are included with wonderful attention and pleasure.

However, the inner streaming of energy expands the sensations to the spiritual dimensions as well as the physical. In Tantric massage the sexual energy is also honored and expanded. Sometimes this includes genital massage but personal choice and the difficulty of laws against touching the genitals in exchange for money restricts actual touching of the genitals except by a person other than the massage coach.

Opening the sexual energy with the hands of the giver just a few inches above the genitals is amazingly powerful for those who can feel & move energy. The sexual energy is connected to the whole body, especially to the heart and third eye in the brain, for a wonderful new experience of wholeness and spiritual ecstasy for the receiver. This is quite different than the purposes of sports & therapeutic massages.

I’ve been quite sick with a head cold the past several days. You shared that the two of you do not get sick. I’m looking forward to that time! How does this happen?

Among the benefits of opening heart-sex-consciousness is a full strengthening of the body’s immune system. When your energy body comes into flow, balance & love, the immune system also opens into flow, balance & love. Health is radiance. Health is actually love. The techniques create the opening to your radiant self.

How do I choose what to read to support learning Tantra Heart?

Reading is secondary to experiential learning, yet it can create a support & stimulus to new approaches. The guideline we use for reading books is to continually choose the ones that really excite us. The valuable learning from reading tends to “stretch” us beyond our comfort zones, into new territory or experiments. Send an email to antoinette@tantraheart.com and she will send you the current list of powerful books that open new vistas for your passionate life, your passionate enlightenment.

I don’t really feel much during the practice.  My partner does! It’s hard to want to do something when you don’t see any obvious benefits – at least yet! What is your view?

At the beginning of doing a daily practice, many people say that she felt like energy failures. Not feeling much. And then the subtle energy (including sexual energy currents) awaken. Worlds of mystery & ahhhh become a part of daily experience once the realization occurs. Yet it often takes awhile at first. Suggestion ~ relax, be attuned to subtleties, breathe deeply, invite in your pleasure, be the witness (in agreement with what is). Learning to do anything that creates magic takes practice. And loving perseverance.